On Sunday, I arrived from Cebu
City after a brief visit to Bohol on occasion of my father’s birthday. Being a
sentimental soul, homecoming is not only melancholic; it’s very restful and
relaxing as well. It’s very comforting and works wonders to the soul. ”There’s no other place like home.” That sums up everything.
Sunday evening, I
was staring on the computer screen wondering what in the world to write for my
column this week when my dearest Chavacana bonita amiga Cecile inspired me to
write about “single career women in their thirties and how they will celebrate
Valentine’s Day”. Ha! What a master piece but tough job. How to write about it?
Let’s start. A lot
of women these days are single. They are not only single; they have financial
independence as well. Others call it careers. I have lots of single friends –
gorgeous girls mind you - with good jobs and in their thirties. You may start
wondering what’s with the age-thing? Oh well, women have different perceptions
of life at thirty. Some look forward to it. Some fear it. Others celebrate it. Still
some others want to get over it – the sooner the better.
In this modern age and date when women are hailed for having
careers and living life with gusto, a lot of women still feel lonely at the end
of the day. They still feel a void. They desire to belong to someone and be
loved by someone. Isn’t this a universal need? Even men want to belong to
someone, be cared for by someone.
Thus, single women
in their thirties, and not in relationships bond together to celebrate
their lives by maximizing their talents and gifts, not to mention their money.
Look around; you will see them in groups in bars, restaurants, malls, movie
houses, coffee shops, gyms, other likely places they tend to congregate. However, for some
others who have excelled professionally and financially, and are comfortable by
their lonesome from time to time, they have difficulty connecting with men
because these able women have “ways” that intimidate men. I guess you have
heard of the phrase: She is intimidating.
Women who have independent
minds, are accomplished, moneyed, and going places almost naturally intimidate
men who are just upstarts. So pray tell, how do they connect? There’s really no
point of connection unless the more established party goes down one level to
accommodate the upstart. Yeah I know it sounds harsh but the truth hurts. In any
relationship, either of the parties involved has a bigger sacrifice over the
other. That’s how a relationship works. There’s no perfect relationship. All
relationships entail sacrifice.
So what do we do
with thirty-something single career women on Valentine’s Day? Tough question.
We cannot play cupid and find them their Valentines. I will not volunteer for
the job.
I guess it’s the
same thing every year then, minus the years that they were involved in a
relationship. It’s like any other ordinary day. They go to work and at the end
of the day, they go home and sleep. For some others, they congregate together and have dinner in a
fancy restaurant culminating in either singing or dancing. For the more romantic, two single career women or three can have
either a dinner date or simply lounge in a coffee house, chat about their
“miserable hearts” while soft music appeases their romance-deprived souls. Ah,
who’s stopping you from inventing anything to enjoy Valentine’s Day. Some would
probably watch a concert, show or movie.
Still at the end of
the day, our single, thirty-something career women will always find ways and
means to enjoy life on Valentine’s Day, Valentine or no Valentine. After all, human
beings whether man or woman, will constantly work on surviving ANY lonely day.
So girl, cheer up!
It’s just one of those days when you feel the lack. The upcoming days will be
better. Just fill your life with the little joys of the moment while Valentine
is finding his way to you.
Note: This article was published in a local paper sometime in 2008.
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